Selena Gomez Sought 'Respectful Closure' With 'Lose You to Love Me'

Selena Gomez had one specific objective in mind once writing her hit single "Lose You to Love Me," and yes it had everything to do with a past relationship.


Speaking with NPR's Lulu Garcia-Navarro throughout an episode of Weekend Edition Sunday, the 27-year-old pop star opened up about the deeper meaning beyond the surface-level revelations the song featured. As it turns out, her reasoning for penning the ballad was a search for closure right following the relationship (allegedly with Justin Bieber) ended.


"I felt I didn't get a respectful closure, and I had accepted that, nevertheless know I required some way to just mention a couple of things that I wish I had mentioned Gomez mentioned of her new album's most emotional track. "It's not a hateful song; it's a song that is saying — I had something pretty and I would never deny that it wasn't that. It was very complicated and I'm happy it's over. And I felt like this was a fantastic way to just mention, you know, it's done, and I understand that, and I respect that, and right now here I am stepping into a whole other chapter."


She stated that she also had to find a way to understand being a victim of "certain abuse," though she demurred about what sort of treatment she had been facing specifically.


"I think that it's something that — I had to find a way to understand it as an adult," she mentioned. "And I had to understand the choices I was making. As much as I certainly don't hope to spend the rest of my life talking about this, I am really overjoyed that I can mention I feel the strongest I've ever felt and I've noticed a way to just walk through it with as much grace as possible."


Gomez just debuted Rare, her first new album in four years, earlier in January 2020.